At my on-campus job during the summer of 2014, my boss was not only a pretty chill person, but is a fountain of knowledge. He speaks the kind of messages that could probably change the viewpoint of an entire nation, but our scatterbrained society would not only be inable to harbor the patience to hear said words, but wouldn't even have the willpower to sit still for five minutes straight. Every now and again I would record him speaking. We could be on a job, cleaning an apartment with the crew, or just walking, and he would just start giving us insight on something. Here is one of the recordings that stood out to me:
I asked, "Taylor, if you were to have kids, what three lessons would you teach them?" He said, "Easy. Integrity, Self Respect, and Living Each Day Like it is Truly Your Last"
"Integrity. You mess up, you need to step up and man up to it. Nobody’s going to bail you out and nobody should be expected to bail you out. You have to man up. That’s number one. When you have that integrity, the rest of life is worth living because you won’t make bad decisions, knowing that you’re the only one accountable for it. My parents did drugs when they were young, my mom stole a car, etc. They did not forbid me to do things when I was young, and did not forbid me to make bad decisions. They told me, “You alone are responsible for anything you do. If you end up in jail, call for pizza for your cellmates because we’re not getting you out.”
The second thing, is that you have to respect yourself. I mean seriously, you have to respect yourself. If you don’t’ respect yourself, then you’re not going to respect anyone around you. If you have self-loathing, then you are going to hate other people around you, no matter what. If you don't like yourself, you won’t like the things about yourself that you see in other people. So you have to respect yourself.
Nobody is guaranteed tomorrow. You can die of a heart attack, you can die of carbon monoxide poisoning, or you could have an aneurism tonight and die. Have you lived your life to the fullest every day? I’m not talking about being risky or being stupid because you’re living like every day is your last, but if you put something off with the idea of “later”, that “later” becomes “never”, the older you get. You need to live your life every day like it is the last day, and make it fulfilling. Think about it, little things. My apartment is always clean, because if I died, I wouldn’t want to have somebody have to come in and clean up my mess. My finances are always sorted because I don’t’ want someone to have to come in and pay for me after I die. I live every day to the fullest I can, within my means. I don’t take off every day to travel the world, because it would cost a fortune, and that turns into somebody else’s burden if I die. But I don’t deny myself things that I want. If you have a passion to do something, don’t put it off; do it. If you want to do something and put it off, and wake up the next day still wanting the same thing, then it needs to be done."